Are You Freaking Kidding Me?

I’ve got a bit of a rant here at the end of this morning’s post, but first let’s recap some food, shall we?

Oh mannnn, did I have a great dinner last night. And I didn’t have to cook any of it, which makes it only that much better, right?


Dinner at my in-laws is fun because the meals are always so different. I was even trying to guess what we might be having beforehand, but I had no clue…and I would have never guessed what we had last night.

We started things off with salad and freshly baked bread.


And then for our main course, we had an AMAZING beef and sweet potato stew.


The flavor was just incredible, and I loved how it incorporated sweet potatoes for a nice change. It was from the crockpot and I’m working on getting the recipe because I would absolutely make this again. Yum!

After dinner, we settled in and watched The Voice while sipping on some hot tea – chamomile (with honey and vanilla) with milk for me.


Oh…and, of course, we had dessert.


I’m tempted to say that this batch may have even come out better than the first one…but then Jay might get a big head, so I’ll just leave it at it was delicious. Winking smile


I’ve got a BUSY day ahead of me, so I should get a head start with things nice and early this morning. I’ve already got a few things knocked off my list, and around 8am, I stopped to make some breakfast.


Coffee + egg and spinach scramble + pumpkin spice English muffin with PB & pumpkin butter.

As I was sitting eating my breakfast, I couldn’t help but catch the story that was playing on GMA in the background. And, actually, the more I listened, the more pissed off I got (sorry, but I was), so now let me go ahead and share my rant. It probably sounds a bit angrier than you’re used to reading on here. Whoops. Smile

The story was about how Jennifer Lawrence is considered a “fat actress” in Hollywood (you can read about it here).

First of all, I’m sorry, but are you freaking kidding me? This young woman is absolutely stunning.


The story goes on to say how she doesn’t tend to fit the typical Hollywood mold, and that she’s actually considered “obese” by Hollywood standards. Ughh. This just makes me so incredibly sad and angry.


Thankfully, she seems to have a good head on her shoulders, and says she has no desire to “slim down” to critics’ standards. I can only hope she’ll remain that adamant, because she truly is a beautiful woman, and I’m honestly just getting so sick and tired of hearing these outrageous claims of average (or even below average!) sized women being labeled as “fat” or “obese.” It’s just sick, and it’s no wonder our society is inundated with ways to slim down, lose weight, or have the “perfect” body.


You guys all know I haven’t been feeling the best about my own body and appearance these days, but I almost feel like this morning was a bit of a turning point for me. Or, rather, a breaking point. Life is just too short to be worrying about the last “X” amount of pounds to lose, or the perfect body…and especially not about pleasing others – whether it be a movie critic, a friend, or a random person walking down the street. Hopefully one of these days, our society will learn to accept that.

End rant.

And I promise, I’m not as angry as I appear to be this morning. In fact, I’m in a rather good mood today! And I’m also pretty excited about a fun giveaway headed your way this afternoon, so stay tuned. Winking smile


  1. says

    I saw this this morning too and was disgusted!!! What is wrong with the world, seriously? How are we supposed to teach our children to grow up in a world free of judgement and critical harm when this is what we are up against?
    I am right there with you lady and definitely almost spit out my coffee when I saw this. Shame on them!
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  2. says

    I saw that last night and went “Huh?!” Jennifer Lawrence is healthy-looking and really strong (She had to be for Hunger Games!), and she’s also a great actress. Definitely role model material. She knows who she is, and she knows that she is a role model, whether she wants to be or not. I admire her.
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  3. Beth M says

    What is she a freaking size 6?! She doesn’t have an ounce of fat on her, she’s fit and is maybe built slightly curvier than a supermodel (thank god). I really think she looks normal…. I don’t see the “fat” aspect. Yeah, this stuff gets to me too. That’s all :)

  4. says

    Have you noticed how your breakfast looks like a smiley face today? Or is that just me being sad ;).
    I totally agree with you, saying she is fat is so irresponsible and dangerous – she is a healthy, toned and talented actress. How can young girls growing up possibly be expected to have a healthy idea of body image when there are discussions like that going on?
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  5. says

    Wow, seriously? I had been hearing jabs about Jennifer Lawrence’s weight since Hunger Games came out (mostly that she wasn’t skinny enough to play Katniss, who was going hungry most of the time), and even then I just was like, “What?!” Our society as a whole is so focused on a set number of lbs and every little flaw, it’s sickening. Who cares what she actually weighs?! She is a strong woman and a good actress. Sadly, that will never be the main focus.

    It reminds me of the Summer Olympics…people were commenting on the girl volleyball players’ bodies and how they were “fat.” I’m sorry, that fat is actually MUSCLE. They are toned, healthy and incredibly fit. People incorrectly equate skin & bones as healthy and beautiful. It’s no wonder so many young girls are growing up with these horribly distorted views of their bodies :(
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  6. Colleen Gifford says

    That got me riled this morning too. Perhaps she’s big boned because if she lost any weight she’d look sickly.

  7. says

    Couldn’t have said that all better myself! And the interesting thing is that it’s taken some time for me to realize all this. The media drives a certain standard into our heads, and it’s easy to get pulled into their ideas of how it should be. It’s sad really. Now, being a high school teacher, and watching how the media impacts young, impressionable girls, I can see exactly why it happened to me and I see it happening every day to these girls (and boys, actually, too). Anyways, the best we can do is spread the love and knowledge just as you’re doing by blogging about it. And also, making sure we are positive role models for not only ourselves, but those around us. It does make a difference!!! :)
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  8. says

    Are you freaking kidding me is right! Bollywood (the Indian version of Hollywood) is the same way, and it makes me so mad. I don’t even know what to say! But the very last paragraph you wrote sums it up for me. I don’t always feel great about my body, but life is waaay too short to focus on things that don’t matter in the long term. I think we, as a society, have come to a point where health should be the focus, not a dress size or number on a scale. Thanks for sharing, Courtney!

  9. Ali says

    I totally agree with you that 1) she is in no way fat or obese and 2)society has some unrealistic expectations for women. One of the things you said surprise me a little though, after you talk about how she is considered a “fat actress” you say “First of all, I’m sorry, but are you freaking kidding me? This young woman is absolutely stunning.” This implies that being fat or overweight and being stunning or beautiful are mutually exclusive and I don’t think that is true at all. I actually think that is part of our problem, as a society, we tell women you can’t be beautiful and overweight at the same time which, to me, is just not true-women can be beautiful at all sizes! Just wanted to share my opinion!

    • Courtney says

      Wow, thanks Ali. I never even thought about how someone may read into that sentence that way. It’s certainly not the way I feel, by any means, as beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. But it’s a good reminder to be careful how we word things. Thanks again for bringing that up!

  10. says

    It’s amazing how out of touch with reality Hollywood has become. Working in a college counseling center it’s no surprise to me how “fat-conscious” this kind of mindset is making our youth. I have several clients who are struggling with body issues because they think they’re fat when they’re far from it. This makes me so incredibly sad, but I’m thankful there are so many of us working to combat the perpetuation of this mindset.
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  11. Alexandra says

    Amen Sista! To me she has a KILLER figure!! And so do you!! Life is too short and unpredictable to be constantly worrrying about losing 5 pounds or having the “perfect” body – its all relative! We as women need to learn to embrace our bodies and our curves because those curves are in fact exactly what make us women!

  12. says

    I am totally with you on this one Courtney!!! Being in the modeling industry I am constantly around this kind of talk. I am all for trying to look and feel your best, but to call that girl “fat” is just plain WRONG! Actually I would consider her thin if I saw her in person. And people wonder why more and more children, teens and even adults have a distorted body image! Well just look at what they are promoting on TV…This makes me mad too, it’s not only you!
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  13. says

    omg thank you so much for ranting about this…I love Jennifer Lawrence and stuff like this makes me so upset! I couldn’t agree more, and I’m so glad that I’m not the only one! And I’m glad that it made you realize that life is too short to be focused on stuff like that…still working on learning it myself so this was a WONDERFUL reminder :)

  14. Alycia says

    Wow, that is such crap! She looks fantastic, and is not obese, heck, not even overweight!

    It really is Hollywood that makes all of us mere mortals feel so bad about ourselves!

  15. says

    This rant is totally warranted – they must be seeing the world through a different set of lenses than I, because I don’t think Jennifer Lawrence is even in the realm of fat. I understand that Hollywood consistently operates in a different reality when it comes to body images but jeez Louise!
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  16. says

    Your “rant” was very well said and didn’t come off angry at all…at least not to me because I completely agree! She is stunning and looks fit and healthy. During the summer months I became obsessed with trying to get leaner and firmer by increasing my proteins and cutting way down on carbs, but it became the only thing I was thinking about as I constantly planned out the next meal and exercise. Then while stuck inside last week with by boyfriend due to hurricane Sandy, I wasn’t able to get in my same workouts and I let him decide several of the meals which were often paired with a glass or two of wine. And you know what, it was really nice! And I didn’t gain any weight!! While I’m not going to go and eat whatever I want, I’m not going to obsess over everything that goes into my mouth and as long as I’m getting my workouts in I’m going to enjoy a glass of wine here and there along with holiday treats (still in moderation). I’m not a model, it is not my primary job, and moreover I want to enjoy life and remain sane, and for me that means not worrying about every little pound.
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  17. says

    I heard this story yesterday, and I absolutely couldn’t believe it. Hollywood and the standards they are setting up for everyone is getting out of hand. I know the girls of our generation have grown up with this nonsense, and it has caused all kinds of issues for all of us. There is a new generation of young girls behind us, and I truly want them to grow up being strong and proud of their bodies. That’s what I hope we are accomplishing little by little in the healthy living community.
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  18. says

    I know when she was in the Hunger Games she got a lot of bashing for that.. it’s HORRIBLE.. I couldn’t believe it.. she’s a perfect example for how women and girls should be. She’s healthy, she works out, she has curves. I love her.. I’m glad she doesn’t let it affect her
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  19. Marielle says

    Oh God- those things annoy me too. I remember reading something once that said by Hollywood standards a size 4 is big. Um…right. So lame. I think Jennifer Lawrence has a great body and looks healthy!

  20. says

    It’s no wonder people have so many body image issues! I really think the media needs to think about what they’re writing and what kind of messages they are sending. I know it certainly affected me when I was growing up. Going through anorexia, then bingeing, then bulimia… and it’s sad because I’ve always been at a healthy weight!
    Even if you weren’t too too angry about this, I’m getting a little fired up about it! Thanks for posting this. I think we should all try to be more aware of these things O__O (and begin to challenge those harmful ideas).
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  21. Lindsay A says

    Wow…that’s all I can say…these people have lost it. She is perfect the way she is. It makes me sick how society is apalled by how many girls have eating disorders, yet the media is throwing this in our face. I’ve been having some pretty low self esteem feelings lately as well. I’m newly married and trying to figure out how to balance alot of new things…yet keeping my old healthy habits. So far I feel like it’s been a losing battle. But you’re right….why waste such a wonderful time in my lfe worrying about my waistline. I’m glad this was a turning point for you. I needed to hear it too!

  22. says

    I saw that article yesterday and couldn’t believe it. But it was just proof positive that society puts some much stock in appearance. Body image should be about wanting to be healthy and fit, not about being thin so someone or some industry will like me.
    Good for her for setting them straight!

    Have a great Friday!
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  23. says

    I don’t watch TV or news in the morning because I kept finding myself upset at things and I didn’t want to be starting my day off on a “ticked off note” – I figure, the more we watch the crap these shows are spewing at us, the more crap they will spew so I just turn it off.
    That sweet potato stew sounds so yummy! I’ve been seeing recipes for beef and sweet potato (chili, stew, etc) – that must be the popular thing this fall.
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  24. says

    A-freaking-MEN! Honestly, I couldn’t agree more. It sounds cliche, but there are SO many more important things in life besides food and working out and losing weight and having the “perfect” body (newsflash, there’s no such thing). It makes me crazy too. Jennifer Lawrence is absolutely beautiful, and you know what? Even if she wasn’t “beautiful” by typical standards, SO WHAT? No matter how you look, does it really matter, as long as you’re healthy and happy?
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  25. says

    Jennifer Lawrence IS stunning! And very talented as well. I remember shortly after The Hunger Games came out, there was talk about how she was “too fat” for the role, supposedly because some thought Katniss should have been thinner due to the circumstances surrounding the story. I’m a big fan of the books and when I saw the movie, that thought didn’t even enter my mind, so I thought it was stupid then… it’s even more ridiculous now. All of this is coming on the heels of the new Kardashian “Plus Size” clothing line that just launched as well… which starts at a size 8!! Excuse me, but when did size 8 become plus size? I weep for all the young girls who see this junk and begin to internalize it. Things need to change.
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  26. Nicole says

    I agree with Colleens comment above. She’s so freakin gorgeous and her figure is perfect, actually how I think women’s bodies should look. That seriously makes me mad too. Not in a bad mood sort of way, but in an angry-in-the-moment-I-will-knock-out-anyone-calling-Jennifer-Lawrence-fat kind of way. :)

  27. Victoria says

    Amen. Amen. Amen. I am so glad to hear this coming out in such public forums. Too often we strive to see past what we have for what we want. We miss out on SO MUCH. We will NEVER be happy unless we learn to find contentment in where we’re at. Thanks for your rant, it was really encouraging!

  28. says

    Great post, Courtney! I absolutely love Jennifer Lawrence (she was *phenomenal* in The Hunger Games), and it’s so frustrating when the media slam her for not being a “typical” Hollywood actress. I’m so glad she’s not succumbing to the pressure. This sounds very similar to the Lady Gaga “news” when she gained weight. C’mon, people! Jennifer and Gaga are two examples of how real women look, and both are so gorgeous and talented.
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  29. says

    Wow! She’s stunning & very toned & healthy looking! I didn’t notice this on the news so thanks for sharing & I think you’re fully justified in being pissed. It’s ridiculous how they criticize healthy looking ladies like her….leaves it wide open for everyones insecurities!
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  30. says

    Fantastic RANT!! I completely agree. She is one hot chica!! Hollywood is a sad place for women. I know I have struggled with issues on weight and body image and this article on her does not send a positive message out about being strong and fit!
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  31. says

    A topic well-deserving of an angry rant! 😉 That is so flippin’ ridiculous!! I’ve seen the headlines and refuse to even click on them. Calling this beautiful, healthy-looking woman obese is absolutely preposterous!! I can’t help but think that it’s just so ridiculous that it’s a ploy for ratings. Not cool. Thanks for sharing your rant :D.
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  32. says

    first of all, all that food looks really good! Especially your creeeammy dessert…mmmm. 😉

    And when you mentioned that the actress was called a “fat actress”, I expected an unhealthy looking person! But she looks so healthy and beautiful and, perfectly slim! Like, not too small and not big AT ALL…..I am amazed at how the world is becoming more corrupt, more skewed in its views, and more confused. Pretty much with everything! Thank you for sharing that, and glad you’re having a great day 😀
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  33. says

    I’m not gonna rediscover the wheel by saying this, since it seems like everyone else already has :), but I was reading this story on yesterday and was absolutely furious. Thanks for speaking up and saying how absolutely LUDICROUS this whole thing is.
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  34. says

    Absolutely agree with you there – Jennifer Lawrence is absolutely gorgeous! And on that note – a fantastic actress (Have you seen Winter’s Bone? She is amazing is that movie). It makes me sad that Hollywood focuses so much on critiquing her body as opposed to discussing her awesome acting abilities. The age we live in, I suppose – it’s pretty shameful.
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  35. april says

    i saw that story on GMA this morning, too! i agree with you 100% – jennifer lawrence looks fabulous and i don’t understand how she could even be considered obese in the slightest! what upsets me the most is that she stars in movies that are targeted for a younger audience – i don’t want young girls to compare themselves to her body type/size and think that they are “fat,” as well.

  36. says

    I want to know something…do ANY of these Hollywood tabloid/cover story people who share this CRAP have daughters? That they feel okay propagating this message? Even so, it’s still a load of ridiculousness that makes you wonder why they critique bodies so much. Why not celebrate a MORE NORMAL figured woman (actually still tiny) for a change? Now you got me all riled up. I hadn’t heard about this yet.
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  37. says

    It is so sad that it is the people writing these trypes of articles have so much influence! I wish the famous ladies they talk so much about would be as strong as Jennifer Lawrence and not conform to their ridiculous standards!
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  38. says

    I saw this too. And I love this girl for staying true to herself! As someone with a loooong history of eating disorders and has come a loooong way back, I hope that she stays exactly as she is and continues to be a positive role model for young women
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  39. says

    I’m glad you’re feeling a bit better in yourself! I’ve been through the highs and lows, the extremes of being so thin that I had to be hospitalised and maybe not quite over weight but extremely curvy for a short period in the middle of it all. If finally found peace and really you’ve got to remember that it really is in your head; other people don’t see small changes in how you appear, you’re still the same awesome person and once you’re healthy and feel healthy that’s all that matters! :)
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  40. says

    First of all, that is so ridiculous. She is gorgeous and SMALL. I read somewhere she said she was always the girl who ate everyone else’s food that they didn’t finish because she didn’t give a crap — so I am glad she has got that attitude!

    Also, I know what you mean about not feeling great recently, but I’m glad you turned it around…what always helps me is thinking about what really matters, and 100 percent of the time, it doesn’t include my pant size or weight.
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  41. says

    Don’t apologize for feeling pissed off- it is 100% warranted. I read the article on this on Huffington Post and it made my blood boil, but then again, why am I ever surprised? We are getting there with women’s rights, marriage equality, minimizing (but definitely not eliminating) racism, sexism and homophobia, but when it comes to discrimination against those who do not fit the ‘ideal body,’ we have a WAYS to come.
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  42. Shannon says

    I heard about Jennifer Lawrence during my first period free this morning at school. She is not fat at all, but has a beautiful body. Society needs to stop judging others’ appearances. I watched the GMA video, and the Instagram photo of the Victoria Secret model two days before the fashion show made me want to throw up. She has absolutely no stomach, and you can see her leg bone. Is this what people can pretty?!? :(

  43. Haley says

    I am disgusted about this too. And, I’m so glad I had the time this evening to look through other posts besides your latest to find this one. I’m a thin, strong, healthy, mom-of-two, and have been trying to lose the last 8 lbs. for 5 years just b/c it’s what I was pre-pregnancy with my 2nd and last daughter. Enough. Thank you for the push to get over it, and to gracefully accept that this *stupid* numbers game is for the idiots in Hollywood.

  44. says

    How disgusting! She is amazing, and who cares if she did have a little extra on her anyways (not that she does). Different, HEALTHY weights are all beautiful. It’s disgusting what society and the media does to people. I’ve actually stopped reading ‘trashy’ magazines because of it. I’m glad you found your turning/breaking point! You’re bangin’ also!
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  45. says

    I am SO glad you said something about this, Courtney. I am SICK that this is even an issue! She is NOT obese by any means, and I personally know many young women who look up to her as a wonderful (and Beautiful) role model!! THANK YOU for sharing! Props!!
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  46. says

    I think (hope?) the word choice of “obese” was more media sensationalism than Hollywood’s sentiments. I recently made the observation that starlets are getting more curvy. This is consistent with the interview with celebrity trainer Harvey Pasternak I read where he says that body parts have fads and right now it’s all about the booty!

    I loved loved Ms. Lawrence in the red Calvin Klein dress. Gorge.
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