…we spent the weekend at home once again.
Don’t get me wrong…I LOVE our family time at home on the weekends. It’s nice sometimes to just veg out! But I’ve actually found myself having a bit of an internal struggle lately. My social media feeds are flooded daily with people out apple picking carving pumpkins, doing the hayrides, and all that jazz. And there’s a big part of me that also wants to be out doing those things, too. But then there’s also an even bigger part of me that is still trying to adjust to life with two kids and managing getting out in public.
And when it comes down to trying to figure out all of the logistics of getting out without a cranky toddler or overtired/hungry/fussy infant, and squeezing in a shower/getting ready after sleeping however late I possibly can, I’m sorta like, nahhhh I’m good at home in my PJ’s.
I wish it were easy for me; I wish I felt more comfortable attempting more outings with all of us in tow. But we’re still a work in progress over here.
Saturday spent entirely in PJ’s by everyone and Lucas helping out daddy with rolling his back.
Funny thing is? We actually DID plan on getting out this weekend! We were going to brave it and were supposed to meet up with friends of ours for brunch on Sunday but, unfortunately, Lucas came down with a bit of a cold and wasn’t quite himself.
Since he was up a bit the night before and we didn’t want to risk anyone getting sick, we decided to cancel (so, so sorry, Joe and Kate…).
Instead, our Sunday was spent very similar to Saturday. At home, but we actually all got dressed and showered.
We watched some football (GO JETS!).
I baked some cookies (for a recipe headed your way later this week!)
We rocked some tummy time.
I got a workout in and even had my little workout buddy attempt to join me (he lasted for all of about 2 minutes before the coughing started up).
We went out to get some fresh air on a crisp and very windy day (so much for raking leaves!).
Some of us got more bundled up than others.
And some of us got put to work.
Just kidding.
We had easy leftovers for dinner after the kiddos were in bed for the night, and now that I’ve typed up this post, it’s about time to go grab my nightly bowl of ice cream before hitting the hay.
And hey, maybe next weekend we’ll actually get out of the house??
Anyone else out there have a hard time seeing everything all over social media and the pressure to be doing the same?
Melissa says
Yes, I often feel the pressure of social media. More often than I’d like to admit, I fall into the “comparison trap,” and ultimately try to tell myself we all do things at our own time and move at our own pace It’s kind of like the quote, “Don’t compare someone else’s middle with your beginning.” I find a lot of truth in that quote.
Kaitlyn @ Powered by Sass says
Yes yes yes. I fall into that trap too. I actually wrote about it on my blog, Powered by Sass! Here’s a link if you’d like to read it. :)
https://poweredbysass.com/2016/07/26/the-comparison-trap/
Emily says
It took me a long time to get out and do things with my first (and only, for now) baby! I remembering seeing people going on outings shortly after childbirth and I just wasn’t emotionally ready for that yet, not to mention I have a baby who only naps well at home. She’s 14 months now, and we still have to miss out on things because of her nap schedule. I think it’s normal during this season of life. You’re doing a great job!
Courtney says
Damn those naps, right?! Haha, we’ve always been the same way and have been very envious of those who have kids who are better at adapting with their naps on the go. Our kids didn’t get that memo ;)
Ashlee says
Yes! I instituted a no social media policy on Saturday and Sunday for that exact reason. I realized that I’d be having a glorious weekend spending time with my husband and getting R&R.. but then I’d see people on social media doing all kinds of fun and outdoorsy things and I’d instantly feel like my weekend plans weren’t “good enough”. Crazy especially because o was perfectly satisfied prior to that!! So now no weekend instagram for me!!
Courtney says
That’s a great idea, Ashlee!
Brittany says
To me the point of the weekend is to relax and enjoy! So if leaving the house is stressful, heck no, stay at home! :) Plus, A is still so little and it’s tough to pack it all up. Mine and David’s favorite saying is “it only gets easier” when referring to going places with the girls and it’s so true. Enjoy the cozy stage you’re in; the pumpkins will be there again next year :)
Lisa says
Everything Brittany said…right now go with what causes less stress. Maybe you can’t do “all things fall” this year but before you know it you will be doing “all things summer”
And hey if all else fails next weekend, grab a mini pumpkin for L to paint a PSL for mama and there you go…fall things ?
Courtney says
LOL fall things. BOOM. Love it! ;)
Courtney says
Loving your saying ;) I’ve definitely already noticed some ways where things have gotten easier and I look forward to that continuing to happen, haha. Love your thoughts on it, Brittany! I think I could be okay with enjoying the cozy stage a little longer this year!
Emily says
Yes! I have 3.5 month old and 3 year old. I’ve never been so tired and out of it. We attempted the pumpkin patch Saturday and it was a mess. Lasted ten minutes before the baby started crying. It’s so much easier not to leave the house but it’s hard to stay in too. I feel you!
Courtney says
Haha I knew that’s exactly what would have happened if we tried – just wasn’t worth it!
Brynn says
I think your weekend looks lovely. There’s something wonderful about staying cozy in your pjs and hanging with your crew. Pumpkins and apples will be there next year :)
Whitney says
To be honest, even your weekend can make some people compare…my husband travels for work a lot so we don’t get that kind of weekend family time nearly as much as you do. So I think “man, pjs all day with daddy looks like so much fun!!” I have two kids of the same ages and it is so tough sometimes, imagine doing it solo all weekend!!! Insert eye roll and hair pull emojis here. Haha. I always remind myself that even though it seems so hard at times, it could always be worse. Enjoy that sweet family time! Prayers that this season of life will be easy on us both! :)
Courtney says
You are SO right, Whitney! It’s definitely all about perspective sometimes :) Here’s hoping we make it through winter okay!!
Katie says
I am the same way! I worry so much about the baby (4.5 months)- will it be too windy, will she be too cold, etc, that it just isn’t worth it to me. My husband was more upset about not taking my 2 year old to the pumpkin patch, so he took her for a bit on Saturday. I was a little bummed not joining, but there is always next year, and I have a feeling both girls will have a blast then. I am a homebody by nature anyway, so many many weekends lately are only venturing out to the gym (maybe) or store (sometimes). The baby still isn’t sleeping very well, so it is definitely a difficult phase right now. But, as you know, the time goes so fast, and pretty soon this will just be a blur. And that is sad too! It is like, you want them to grow up, so that it gets easier, but you also want the baby squishiness and snuggles forever.
Courtney says
Oh my gosh, I SO feel you on this!! It’s been in my mind for a blog post but I’ve been too tired to try and write it all out so it makes sense, lol!
Virjinia says
I know what you mean about the pressure but you have two littles! It’s not easy trying to get everyone ready to go and I’m sure no one blames you for that. Yes the pressure is there but if you are happy then that’s what you should be doing. I make an effort to give my family my attention during the weekend and whatever we do usually ends up being super fun even if it’s just having a movie marathon in our pjs!
julie says
When my girls were young we didn’t do a lot of seasonal activities either. Although I felt badly about that, our daycare provider did a fantastic job with field trips of all kinds, so it’s not like they ever missed out. Now that everyone is older I think we all enjoy getting out together as a family MUCH more. So don’t worry, you do have time left to squeeze all that stuff in when they’re just a little older.
And I have to say, as far as pumpkin patches and apple picking go, if we don’t do those things at the end of September, they never happen. I don’t know if it’s that way for everyone, but October is kind of a black hole for us.
Courtney says
Haha I agree..what IS it about October?!?!
Jennifer says
We are in the same funk. Not due to a newborn but due to sickness. We had all these plans and didn’t end up going anywhere. But I’m learning to adjust and flow with the rhythm of life because the older I get the more I realize going against it is not worth it. Just creates more stress and makes those things not fun at all. This too shall pass!
Courtney says
Oh NO! I hope everyone is on the mend!
Kaitlyn @ Powered by Sass says
It’s so easy to feel like you have to constantly go, go, go or you’ll miss out on something amazing. Truth it, wonderful memories can be made at home too. Social media is SUCH a pain when it comes to comparing yourself to others. It’s inevitable, and it drives me insane. Sometimes, if I’m having a low-key day or weekend, I stay off of social media. It helps me stay in the moment of real life and be thankful for what I do have. <3
Courtney says
Definitely a good idea to stay away from social media sometimes – especially if you know it may trigger certain feelings!
Katie says
Last year when I had a very young infant & toddler during the fall season, I felt that way so much..like we were “missing out”. BUT I then told myself “It’s just a season of life & it will pass”. Whenever I feel the comparison trap feelings coming on, I always tell myself that! Staying home in Pjs is pretty awesome though ;)
Courtney says
Staying in PJ’s is pretty awesome, haha. You’re so right though – it’s just a season. Won’t last forever!
Annie says
I am so glad you posted this. I have a 2 year old and an 8 week old. I keep making plans to do this or that fall activity, like the various pumpkin patches and fall festvials going on, or to take him to library story time or a kids museum during the week (I’m a SAHM). And then inevitably we end up stating home because I just don’t want to deal with the inevitable 2 year old tantrum or newborn fussiness that will end up cutting the trip short, or naptime creeps up and we don’t end up going! At least you guys look like you had a full weekend at home…I will admit we have relied WAY too much on media to occupy my two year old since having the baby! Just want to let you know you are not alone!!
Courtney says
Thanks so much for sharing this, Annie! We, too, rely on electronics a little too much some days but, ultimately, I’ve learned to let my guilt on that go a bit for now. It’s survival mode!
Meg says
I have dubbed this my “year of no.” Between working full time, raising a two year old, and attending to the fixer upper we just bought, there is not enough time to do all those fun (time-consuming) extras. Schlepping to an apple orchard or football game just ain’t gonna happen right now. \I make it to the gym once, maybe twice a week and that’s all I can fit into my days. It may sound extreme to some, but it was actually really liberating telling everyone that this was my “year of no” and that I won’t have time to hang out for the next few months. My good friends will be there waiting when things calm.
Courtney says
I LOVE THIS. So awesome!!!
Trisha says
Oh gosh, I remember this all too well. Last fall our boys were just a few months old and it seemed everyone was out doing all things fall, while we were just home, trying our best to make heads or tails of twin parenting.
But we’re making up for it this year, just like you will next fall. :)