Last week, I came across this post that somebody had shared on Facebook. I’m sure some of you read it. These days, it seems like almost every other post in my Facebook news feed is a shared article or meme so I don’t always pay attention to them. But there was something about this one that caught my eye.
As I read through the post, I found myself continuing to shake my head and say, ummm yes. Yes, yes, yes. To all of this.
I know I’ve briefly mentioned “how I’m doing” here and there in some of Alex’s monthly updates, and I’ve alluded to the fact that I do have more to share…it’s just finding the time to do it. So here I am today, with a little extra time, and I honestly have no idea what direction this post is going to take so I guess we’ll see what happens. I just feel like writing.
So back to that post.
At 33 years old, I’ve actually found myself at a bit of an odd place, and there are days where I’m really a bit undecided on whether or not I’m content with it. You all know by now that I have a day job. It’s nothing remotely close to what I went to college for (elementary education) or graduate school for (literacy), but it’s good. It’s a job that I certainly don’t dread going to, by any means, and I truly enjoy the company of my coworkers on the days that I’m in the office. I have a flexible schedule that I could not complain one bit about, and a boss that I could forever sing praises for (he does not read this blog, as far as I know!).
But am I really making a difference in peoples’ lives? No, not really. Am I going to change the world? Mmm, nope. Is it a true “career” with a path to continued success? I suppose it could be; there are certainly opportunities to advance, if I wanted to.
The thing is, I’m not sure I’d really want to. I know so many people who have always been incredibly career driven, and I’ve always found that so admirable. But looking back, when I used to think about how my life would look as I got older, I don’t think I’ve ever really been someone that’s focused on a ‘big’ career or someone trying to “climb the corporate ladder.” For me, if I’m at a job that I enjoy, I can provide for my family, and I actually have the flexibility to be with my family when I need (and want!) to be, then that has always been my priority. And the fact that I have that right now makes me feel incredibly lucky.
But then I find myself thinking that I should be doing more. Is all of that really good enough these days? Shouldn’t I be WANTING more?? That’s where that mediocre post mentioned above really hit home.
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And the same goes for this blog, too! I like my day job because it allows me to provide for my family and have somewhat of a life outside of “mom,” which I’ve come to find out is important for me. But I love my blog because it allows me to do, really, whatever the heck I want! I can talk about what’s important to me, what’s on my mind, or the crazy chaos of adjusting to life with two kids. I’m lucky enough to be able to work with some amazing and fun companies. And sometimes, I’m even able to make a difference in someone’s day. Truthfully, that’s the #1 thing I miss most about teaching; feeling like I’ve made a difference or a positive impact on someone’s life.
Random old photo of me at a computer because I need images with wordy posts. ; )
But even with the blog, I often feel like I should be doing…more. It’s a self-imposed pressure that has been weighing heavier on me lately, and it’s something I just really need to get past. These days, it just seems like everything is about being “all in,” balls-to-the-walls, all about the hustle. And I’m just not sure I’m a hustler?
Next week, I’ll be coming up on the seventh anniversary of this blog. SEVEN years! Never, ever, would I have imagined after publishing that first post that it would become what it has. And that’s something that I know I should be incredibly proud of…and I AM. Seriously, I am.
But then I see so many other incredible bloggers who are just really kicking ass at what they’re doing. They’re creating these amazing programs, and ebooks, and providing services that are truly top notch. It seems like they’ve really found their niche, and as a “virtual friend” to them, I am so proud of what they’ve created.
Then I look at me over here and I think, well huh…what’s my niche? I’m just cruising along somewhere in the middle, somewhere between wanting MORE, and being okay with needing LESS. Should I be creating ebooks, too? Should I be hiring photographers to make my blog post photos look beautiful and organized?
It’s funny…I warned you above that I had no idea where this post was going to go when I started writing it. Sometimes, writing can be a bit therapeutic for me, since I’m not always the best with spoken words. And since looking back and reading what I’ve already written, I’m starting to realize that I think I really am more okay with being somewhere in the middle (mediocre?) when it comes to this blog than I thought I was. I often lose sight of the fact that this is NOT my full time job. Sure, it’s a side job that has the ability to pay well, and for that I’m incredibly grateful. But I think it’s okay to not necessarily have a “niche;” to be able to dabble in a little bit of everything because that’s just what you like.
I know that a good majority of you reading are likely readers who have been reading for a little while now. So for that, I need to give myself a little more credit, I suppose? That’s another reason I love this blog…where my day job lacks the ability to truly make a difference to some people, this little space makes up for it. Receiving emails or comments from you guys, letting me know that just one little blog post of mine made a difference in your day or life, means more than anything I could ever express (since I can’t really give you all hugs through this screen!). So even though there are many days (or weeks) lately where I’m just struggling to find words to chat about with you, it’ll still always be here to come back to when I can. You know, when these two cuties give me a break.
Another old photo!
I’m fairly certain I could let this blog post get incredibly long if I went in to all of my thoughts and feelings about all of the other facets of life (like on health and fitness, or on being a mom, or a wife, etc.). And maybe I’ll get to that soon, but the baby monitor next to me right now is telling me that nap time is up so it’s about time to hit ‘save’ on this one.
So for now, I guess I’ll conclude this post by first saying THANK YOU, as always. For reading along with me. For sticking around, even though I may be lacking my “blog spark” these days. For letting me spill my thoughts and feelings to so many people I’ve never met (and likely will never meet), and apparently, letting me work out my own insecurities and issues within one tiny post. Because I will tell you that while I know I still struggle, I am actually feeling quite a bit different right now than when I first sat down to start this post.
Funny how things work out that way, isn’t it? ; )
Elizabeth says
I love your blog! I’m sure I’ve said it before, but you’re the only blog I read on a regular basis any more. The blogs I used to love I just can’t relate to these days. I’m a working mum too and I don’t have any mum friends who work and it’s HARD not being able to talk to them about the struggles of it. So to me, your posts make me feel not so alone.
Thanks for another great post :-)
Justine says
You’re my favorite blog to read these days, you’re real and I think a lot of us can relate. Thanks for talking about life, and not being afraid to put your raw emotions out there. P.S. You are the only blogger I have ever posted comments on…haha. Thanks for being you and having this space!
Katelyn says
I’ve been reading your blog for about 7 years! I did once write you an email to encourage you to keep teaching (sorry! I’m nosy and bossy!). I very surprisingly got pregnant this past year and so I have reread all of your monthly updates! This space has been very helpful for the unprepared mom! So, THANK YOU!
Jamie says
Love your blog and these raw, honest posts. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!!
Anna says
I’m in a different stage of life compared to you (26, not married, in grad school) but your blog is my favorite! I’ve read it for 5 years! You are relateable and I think it’s admirable that you have a job outside of the blog yet still keep it together (or tell us you aren’t keeping it together instead of pretending you have a 100% perfect life). I get the feeling most bloggers these days just put out posts to put out posts ($$) and I’ve never gotten that from you. I appreciate your honestly when it comes to your day to day stresses and life with a family. Your recipes are also made for REAL life and real families (not glutenfreepaleodairyfreeveganetc) and delicious! Your blog will continue to be a favorite of mine-so thank you!
Heather @Lunging Through Life says
Your honesty and real life posts are what keep me coming back. In our world of so much social media, it’s hard to not compare ourselves. I’ve been blogging 4 years and it’s so different now than then and I just don’t have time for it either. It makes me feel better seeing and reading this that it’s okay not to be full force into the blog and take it as a hobby.
montessoriishmom says
So beautifully written :) I always love how honest your blog posts are. I think you’re right, there is so much pressure to be amazing at everything we do and it’s just not realistic to give 100% in everything, all at the same time. I think life goes in stages with this and the time when you have little kids is just not (generally) the 100% career devoted stage and that’s so much more than okay!
Rebecca says
I think it is very difficult to work out these feelings. It’s hard to know whether we’re being influenced by all the pressures around us, or whether we’re truly feeling unsatisfied and should look into making a change. I don’t have children and haven’t really ever wanted them, but lately I’ve found myself wondering if I’m doing “enough” with my life to justify not having them (if that makes sense). I too feel restless or dissatisfied with what I’ve accomplished. Why haven’t I written a book? Why haven’t I published more? Why am I stagnant?
I too, though, would never call myself a “hustler,” and really don’t have a desire to be one. :)
I’ve read a lot about how Americans in particular tend to envision themselves achieving enormous things as individuals–we’ll become famous, influence millions, become rich. But the fact is that most people will not achieve these things. Other cultures focus more on collectivity and community. I wonder if they have fewer struggles to feel fulfilled.
Amanda M says
I read your blog every single day because I love your writing! Never stop blogging. You truly are great at reaching out to people whether it be a post about motherhood or a simple recipe. I love reading your blog even more now because I am pregnant and enjoy going through your pregnancy posts. I know I can speak for many when I say I truly appreciate you doing what you do!!!
Viloshni Govender says
Thank you for sharing that wonderful article and your own insights on this topic! It was real and honest and I really appreciate that. I have been reading your blog for about 3 years now and I really enjoy it! Well done on your 7 year blogiversary! I have been toying with the idea of starting a blog for a while but keep putting it off because I already have a full time job but the urge does not seem to be subsiding so I think its something I should pursue and reading this post has motivated me even more. Thanks Courtney!
Nicole W says
Totally relate to this….and as an almost 1st time mom (due in June) I feel the same way a lot of the time! Just so you know you are always the first blog I read in the morning and I always look forward to your posts! You have always been so relatable and I find that to be incredibly refreshing! Keep it up!! :)
Nikki S. says
I think it is safe to say we all appreciate your honesty and respect how you feel, you are allowed to feel the way that you do. I think you do an amazing job with your blog and look forward to receiving those new email updates! I can also say I understand your feeling of being mediocre especially with work, I am in the same boat as to whether I want to stay where I am at or find a more fulfilling job that maybe pertains to my degree. You get so comfortable at where you are that changing sometimes does not seem appealing. I am expecting my first child in 3 months and often wonder if I will even want to return to work and if that’s the case then what do I do? We make enough but I like my job but being a mom I am sure is much more rewarding. You know you have all of us readers and of course your family behind you, supporting you! Thanks again for always being so open and honest :)
Linz @ Itz Linz says
i think yet another one of the reasons that your blog is so popular is because YOU are so relateable… you don’t sugar coat things, you do work, you are a momma, you are a HUMAN!! so thank you for your honesty and continuing to share bits and pieces of your lives (and awesome recipes, reviews, etc) with us!! xo
Whitney says
This post right here. Exactly why you are my favorite blogger. Your honesty and vulnerability is refreshing and so relatable. I think if we all sat back and thought about our lives and our OWN goals, not the goals that we think we “should” have, we would all be a little happier with mediocre. I don’t think that word is negative at all, but I think people around us look down on it because it doesn’t sound wonderfully exciting or Facebook worthy. (Which is why I got rid of the darn thing, an endless comparison game of life that is utterly exhausting). As a stay at home mom I have had to learn that yes, “that’s all I do” and have thickened my skin to those who phrase it that way. Yes, a mediocre life I suppose. I may not be changing the world, but I’m changing and molding the lives of two littles who depend on me. I love reading your blog, it’s like a breath of fresh air! :)
Rachel says
I love your blog! And I totally get what you mean, on a daily basis I ask myself is this what I want to be when I grow up. I still feel at 37 that I haven’t hit my “grown up” job yet.
Catherine @ A Cup of Catherine says
Courtney!!!
I haven’t done a lot of blog reading lately so I’m not up to speed with you, but I know EXACTLY where you’re coming from.
We’re the same age, from different parts of the country, but our lives are very similar. In school, I was so driven and thought for certain I’d be climbing the ladder. Now, I work a job I used to hate but enjoy NOW that isn’t even close to what I went to school for. I have friends earning multiple professional degrees and I tell you, until the last year or so I REALLY struggled with accepting my purpose.
But…like you…that post meant so much to me! I am content in my life and while being a mommy wasn’t ever my life’s ambition, I KNOW it is the most important thing in my life, as well as being a wife and contributing how I can to my family.
I just want to say that I’ve always loved reading your blog and I appreciate that it’s “normal” and not 100% “evergreen” Pinterest crap!
I’ve never had the level of successs with my blog as you have, but I find myself in that same rut/comparison trap, too. But, at the end of the day, for me it’s about 1) having an outlet I enjoy and 2) the CONNECTIONS!
Hang in there, girl! Much love to you <3 <3
Sarah @ Sweet Miles says
Hahaha your quote made me laugh out loud. Amen sister!
“I just want to say that I’ve always loved reading your blog and I appreciate that it’s “normal” and not 100% “evergreen” Pinterest crap!”
Aimee says
Long time reader. The thing that keeps me coming back to your blog is the mediocrity of it. You are still relatable. A working mom, living a fulfilling and normal life is nothing to be ashamed of. You are raising humans and that is the most important job of all. I think that once a blogger turns into a “full time blogger” it turns readers off because they can no longer relate. Don’t change!!
Renee says
Courtney you’ve kind of said what I think most working moms in general with young kids struggle with. I struggle with it even today. I want the “carreer” I want a good family and to be a good wife, oh and I want to be fit and right now I want a super nice house but trying to make it all work sometimes means settling for good rather than great. Just because it isn’t working now doesn’t mean it won’t ever. I always look at my fitness as my gage for how the rest of my life is going…sad but true…Fitness for me lately is the last piece, so usually that means I’m a little softer when work is going well and family is great and house plans are moving along because I’m focusing my efforts on those things rather than my fitness. I’m always a little off when my fitness is on point because that takes TONS of discipline for me and a lot of focus which usually means something else is off. It’s an ebb and flow of balance and at the end of the of the day I would bet you are right where you need to be mediocre or not. I think you’re doing great, you even keep me on track with my blog sometimes when I’m falling behind and putting the pressure on myself. While other bloggers have OMG fabulous lives on the interwebs I would much rather read a blog like yours that gives some normalcy to what most of us are dealing with.
Melissa says
Your blog is great! I’ve read healthy living blogs relentlessly since 2009 and I’m newish to reading yours but I really enjoy it. It’s obvious to anyone with half a brain how forced some bloggers posts are and I really appreciate you keeping it real. You’re doing great! You seem like a great mom. How many more times can I say great?
nicole says
I am long time reader who has never commented. I want to tell you I am a working mother too who has the same thoughts you do. We are hardest on ourselves and our culture really puts pressure on us to DO. IT. All! Well, its not possible – and be sane.
I enjoy reading your blog and think you are amazing! It is A-Ok to enjoy and savor these moments in time. Its funny, because I look at you as inspiration – you make time to bake and work out and enjoy little things (coffee! like me). I think you are doing awesome!
Brooke Murphy says
Thank you for being so real and so honest. I love reading your blog! Keep doing what you’re doing!
Nathalie says
Hi Courtney,
I started reading about 5 years ago and you are honestly the only blog I’m still reading. You don’t need to make ebooks or have a photographer because you are real and that’s what appeals to people.
I know when I come here to read you won’t act perfect but you tell things the way they are. I soooo love that about you! Keep doing what you are doing.. Even if you feel mediocre, to some people you are still the n°1 blog.
Love from Belgium!
Jess says
YES, lady! Loved this post and can relate so, so much! Thanks for keepin it real, as usual! And thanks for adding some pictures to the post…I need pictures too. Haha!
Ashley says
Thank you for sharing this! I absolutely love your blog and the way you are real and down to earth, it’s so refreshing. I can completely relate with the “climbing the career ladder”, I’m just not sure that it’s what I want to do. I’m 27, have a job I really enjoy also with a flexible schedule and it’s at a university so I’ll be able to start my graduate degree and pay little out of pocket. I’m not changing the world, making a huge difference in anyone’s life or bringing in the big bucks, but for me right now, it’s good and I need to learn to be content with where I’m at. Thank you!
Janay says
You’re amazing! I loved this post and everything you had to say. Don’t compare yourself or your blog to anyone else’s. You have different priorities and that’s okay. I’ve just come to terms with this in my life and I have a whole new perspective. I think everything will work out the way it’s supposed to for you. You want to spend time with your family and that’s okay. That’s your priority!
I’ve recently have been feeling like this and was feeling pretty down on myself because I felt like my career was going nowhere and I have so many successful friends and family. After thinking about it I realized that my life is exactly the way I want it to be. Do I still have doubtful days? Of course. But in the end I know in my heart that this is where I want to be and I wouldn’t change it for the world! :)
Thank you for sharing your feelings! I relate so much to what you had to say. And today you can definitely feel good knowing you made a difference in my life. :)
Alyssa says
I love your blog the way it is. You are honestly and to totally relatable! I have two boys are well, one the same age as Lucas and one about half a year older then Alex so I enjoy reading about you adventures with your little family. My favourite blog to read for sure!
Jennifer says
Being in the middle is the BEST place to be – that’s why so many can relate to you!
Please do not hire a photographer for your photos! I love that your camera reel looks like mine – real photos.
I really enjoy your blog. You do have a niche – the work-outside-the-home-mom blogger.
Keep up the great work. One or 2 posts a week is a great pace, I think.
Mollie says
I just had a conversation with my husband about feeling this way. I’m a mom to a 9 month old and also work a high-pressure, 50ish hr/week job, and I constantly feel like I’m not good enough at either my job or being a mom. When I try to focus more on work, I feel guilty for not being home, and when I’m home, I feel like I’m slacking on work. Being a working mom is so, so hard. And I don’t think it’s necessarily about whether you’re driven or a hustler or not, it’s more that at the end of the day, if you’ve done your best with everything that’s on your plate, that has to be enough. I try to remind myself of that when that pressure to “do more” builds up!
Also, love your blog, and love that you maybe don’t have a “niche” — those kinds of blogs get pretty boring if you ask me!
Paige says
Thank you! Your blog is so down to earth and relatable. I am a stay at home mom of one and expecting another little one. I always look forward to your posts and love that they focus on every day life. That is what life is mostly about with little ones! Also, give yourself a little more credit!As a reader it seems you juggle a lot between family, working, blogging and your Usborne business. :)
Lisa says
Great post! As most people have already stated, you do have your “niche” in that you are so relatable. I honestly don’t have that many people in my life who are so fitness/food/career/fashion etc focused, so when I read these blogs that are to those extremes, it is sometimes hard to relate to my real life.
I also totally agree with being just ok with the status quo. I am going to be 33 this summer, coming up on my 3rd anniversary, in a job I like, not love, but like yours, it does have awesome flexibility and benefits. I keep getting pressure about when we are going to have kids, and while I do know that is something I want eventually, I am really ok with how things are now. And sometimes I feel like I should just really really want that baby…which I do eventually! But is it so wrong to be happy with your life right now? Haha, I never comment on posts, but like others, this just called to me and I had to let you know I can relate!
Allison says
I am so happy for you that you were able to write all this out and feel better about it in the end. You legitimately have the EXACT same thought process as me on all of this. I have really been struggling with being happy at my job lately, mainly due to the fact that like you, I do not feel like I am making a difference in anyone’s life. However, I have all the flexibility I could ever want, a solid paycheck, a 2 minute drive to work, and the ability to have an amazing work life balance. And that is something that is invaluable to me. Could I go get another job where I feel more important? Absolutely. But do I want to? Not really. I am content with things being easy and comfortable and that they allow me to pursue my other passions, too. This quote from you resonated with me so deeply:
“For me, if I’m at a job that I enjoy, I can provide for my family, and I actually have the flexibility to be with my family when I need (and want!) to be, then that has always been my priority.”
Love, love, love that. I think you are doing a great job and there is nothing wrong with being content with mediocre, because I know that I sure am :)
Chelsea says
Totally agree with both of you! I think success isn’t measured by our accomplishments in each individual space, but in our ability to have BALANCE in our lives. Comfort and flexibility in my career are really important, which gives me time and energy to do things outside of it, like the gym, being with friends and family, and volunteering.
On the blog note, yours is one of my favorites because you are a good writer! I think my world has changed where I don’t read books every day like I used to- I fall asleep in the first five minutes! :) I love that I have your blog to read each week to give me insight, connection, inspiration, relaxation, etc so please keep your style! I prefer to actually read something instead of 100 recipes/workouts/reviews etc all the time.
Liz says
I stumbled upon your blog a few years ago. The first post I read was about baking. I was not even into baking at the time, but your writing style actually made it interesting! I have read ever since and love all of your posts for your realist style. I also have two littles so I can totally relate to where you are in life, and also love any post on the boys. :)
Sara says
I’ve been reading your blog almost daily for a few years now. I really appreciate the fact that you are a real person and you are very relatable. After reading the comments it seems that we all feel a similar way and are also going through similar feelings. Thank you for the post! It was refreshing and keep doing what you are doing!
Johanna says
I love your blog and I totally understand how you feel. I work a job that helps support my family. I even recently got the green light to work from home full time! I can be home to take the dog out and start dinner on my lunch break. I mean it’s everything I could want except I feel no real fulfillment in what I do. I grew up in a household where My parent’s told me ” you don’t have to love your job, it’s just a paycheck and then you can come home and focus and spend time with your family”. But I’m not sure I’m ready to just give up on my dreams of going into another field. I guess my situation feels a little different as I do dread my job some days. It’s very demanding and can really be mentally draining. Maybe it’s our age ( I’m 34) but I’m having the same thoughts. Should I be doing more? I guess I could write my own post about this lol but I do hope you continue with your blog because I do enjoy it!
Lauren says
LONG time reader…just commenting to say your blog has been and continues to be one of my favorites. TBH I no longer read most of the ones I started reading seven-ish years ago but I always check in with your little corner. You are honest and thoughtful and I’ve always loved the fact that you have a life outside of the internet world – i sort of feel like your friends and family are an extension of mine at this point lol I just wanted to offer you encouragement that I love your blog for exactly what it is and I hope you stick around for a long time :)
Laurel says
Yours is the only healthy living blog I will read! Honestly, the others seem fake and sugar-coated and are just plain boring for that reason, IMO.
And don’t forget that a lot of bloggers’ projects (books, DVDs) fall totally flat!
I am a working mom who switched careers and took a job I’m overqualified for so that I can have predictable hours and spend time with my family. And it was totally worth the pay cut. :)
Suzanne says
You can call your blog “mediocre” but honestly, it’s one of the only blogs I read these days. The ones that have created all of the ebooks and services just don’t interest me any longer. I don’t need another thing to buy or tell me I’m not good enough. I just want some relatable entertainment and that’s what I get with you! I’m obviously not in the minority(says all of the other similar comments) so while you may not feel like you are keeping up with other bloggers, you are keeping the interest of SO many of us!
Kat says
You’re one of the few bloggers I follow that actually has a day job and that is so helpful for me to relate as I’m also a working mom. I have similar thoughts about my job/career. I was a lot more ambitious before having kids but am finally ok with this season of life where kids come first. And that’s ok!!! It’s not forever. You’re doing an awesome job!
Heather says
I love your blog! I appreciate the realness of it. I was wondering if maybe you could do a post on your decision to leave teaching? I also graduated with a degree in elementary Ed and staying home with my two boys and wondering about life after 😁!
Michelle Reiter says
Courtney, I have admired you for a long time while you maintain your job outside of the home, have two little ones, manage a family, run a successful blog and now you do Usbourne books too. Don’t sell yourself short that you aren’t already doing it all and then some :). I can’t entirely relate, I’m 24 and have been married a year and a half but I know that kids aren’t too far away and I feel like I already know that when we do I am going to want nothing more than to be there with my kids and raise our family. I know we will be better a two income family so I’ll still need to work as well but I know it won’t be my biggest priority and I’m okay with that I think. I’m the same as you. I admire people who are career driven but when I have always thought about what my future looks like it always involves my husband and I raising our family and being close to our families. I think you are doing everything right and what is right for you.
On a side note, I absolutely love your blog, have been reading for a few years now and I say don’t change a thing. I love how you haven’t conformed to sponsored content 24/7, perfect photos and each post having a business purpose. I love hearing about your life and your honesty. I personally would love more posts about what you mentioned; being a mom, wife, etc.
Thanks Courtney, you are awesome!
Julia says
Hi Courtney. Thank you for this post, and for your willingness to always be real and honest with your readers. I read several blogs and yours is in my top 3 favorites. This is because of your honesty, your genuinely kind nature and the fact that I can relate in a lot of ways. I appreciate the phone pics more than the fancy camera pics because it reminds me there is a real live human being behind the posts. I don’t know you in person, but I feel like we are friends. I make lots of your recipes, get happy and sad for you when you share experiences, and look forward to hanging out (aka reading your posts). So here is a big virtual hug from me. You keep being you, and I’ll keep loving this little piece of the internet. 😊
Kristin says
I really like reading your blog for a bunch of reasons. Your writing is really great- it really feels genuine. My kids are both a few months younger than yours, so honestly its been nice to see how you do things, as well as stealing some recipes and gift ideas! I really appreciate you sharing a bit of your life on here!
Dena says
I haven’t read any other comments (because I’m reading at work….that’s how much I like you….hahaha!), but I’m sure other people have said the same thing. I love your blog because you keep it REAL and I love your “mediumness” (I know it’s not a word incase someone wants to tell me that – lol). Because some of the blogs I used to love are so money driven (and trust me, I GET IT), but it’s almost like you don’t know if they are being “real” or just trying to sell something to make a buck. It just makes them feel more “corporate” and less like a real “person” if I’m making sense. I love how you are genuine and honest and I DO find helpful things from your blog (even though my kids are a lot older). I love how you have recipes, and family stuff, and fashion, and decorating, and all sorts of different things. So thank you for what you do and for sharing with all of us strangers. I, for one, appreciate it! <3
Donna says
Agree completely with this comment. Your blog is PERFECTION. IN EVERY WAY. You are absolutely not mediocre in any way. Perhaps it is all the social media out there now making you feel this way. But life is filled with SO many components. Not just WORK! Work should not define us in anyway as in the end…..will work be what meant the ultimate MOST to you and what you are proudest of in your life? NO! Anyway you have a beautiful life and it is so well rounded with family, work, and so many other things. Sorry this was long. I could go on and on, but I won’t. We all experience these feelings from time to time. In a quieter moment in your heart and soul remember to truly embrace all that you have and realize your life is pretty darn GREAT and so are you!
Katie says
Don’t compare — do YOU! And you are most definitely helping people with this little old blog of yours. From reading this blog, you seem like a sincere person and a great wife and mother. You have a great relationship with your family and I think that’s worth more than any e-book, fitness/nutrition program or anything else can do for you.
Bonnie says
For what it’s worth, I only read two blogs anymore – yours and one other one. I don’t enjoy a lot of the “healthy living” blogs I used to read anymore. Many of those bloggers lost all their personality and relatability when they “got big” and started publishing plans and ebooks and hiring photographers, some are almost even generic. I love that you have a day job and that this blog is not your whole life. I don’t mind if you post sporadically or if your content is “all over the place” – you have a job and a family! The important thing is that you’re real and your blog still has personality and that’s what I’m here for. And yummy recipes, too! :-)
Megan says
I’ve been reading your blog for about a year and a half and it’s always one of the first ones that I click on in my feed! I love that you keep it real. A lot of the blogs I’ve been reading for years have gone the way of too much sponsored content and almost feel too polished, to the point where they don’t feel personal anymore. I’m a SAHM to a 14 month-old, so I’ve loved reading about your experiences as a mom. To me it sounds like you have a perfect balance of being able to work at a job that you enjoy but still having the flexibility to be involved with your family. There will always be time for loftier career goals later, so don’t beat yourself up! You’re doing a great job as a blogger and a mom and from all the other comments it sounds like most of your other readers would agree!
Sue says
Just wanted to say thank you for this post! I have followed your blog for many years and like a lot of the others here said, a lot of the other “healthy living” blogs seem like they are posting just to make more money. I am also a mom of two kids and have been working at the same mundane corporate job for the last ten years (since I graduated college!). I always had a goal of leaving my position to do something more self-fulfilling, but once I had kids and my company allowed me to be a lot more flexible with my schedule, I realize that, at least for now, this is something I want to stick with. It allows me to provide for my family (and help pay for extra curricular activities) as well as gives me more time to spend with them. I look forward to reading many more posts from you!
Brigid says
I definitely have the same struggles with feeling that I’m not making a difference and I’ve got at least ten years on you. However, I remind myself that we can affect change in people’s lives in the littlest ways….a compliment, a smile, a good dead. Also, raising your kids to be productive, kind and caring people is definitely one of the most important ways you can make a positive impact in this world. I enjoy your blog and like the fact that you are not a full-time blogger because I have seen so many blogs become so commercial and step away from their original path because it is a sole income for some bloggers and they have to do mostly sponsored posts. You are living your journey. You relate and tell it how it is. I love it!
Bethany @Luluruns says
Hey Courtney! I really enjoy your blog, because of posts like these! I love your raw honesty, your balance of healthy living/enjoying treats, and seeing your family updates! Keep blogging! You are doing great!
Tressa says
Thank you for being YOU! I never comment but often should because I seriously relate to you the most! You’re a working mom who juggles it all…who enjoys kicking back with a beer and a cheeseburger and not afraid to share it with her readers! This is why I love reading about your real life and so glad you came out of your shell. Once upon a time in my 20s, reading blogs about working out and eating clean all the time, pro food and fitness photography, considering purchasing a service and someone’s ebook was appealing now I’d say that’s all trying to keep up with the jones’ and not being true to yourself. All of that jazz seems so exhausting! Your posts DO make a difference in other women’s lives… it almost reassures us that we are not alone! So yes, keep being mediocre!
Melissa says
Don’t want to just repeat everything everyone else has said, but I totally agree with them! You’re great because you’re REAL and relatable and just … normal! It’s nice to read a blog that doesn’t feel written by a “brand” but an actual human woman. XO
Heather says
You are literally my favorite blog BECAUSE you are so normal. I stopped reading so many blogs because they are turning into what I am starting to dub “Barbie blogs.” They just seem so unreal to me. I feel like I am just looking at posed pics of models standing in front of mansions, talking about how busy they are when they don’t even have full-time jobs. I love the fact that you work and you admit that sometimes you are just busy, exhausted, or just plain don’t feel like blogging. Very down to earth! Love it!
Sarah @ Sweet Miles says
As someone who DOES work full time in the blogging world for an influencer marketing company, this was incredibly refreshing to read! I have my own blog, and I have a lot of similar thoughts as you as far as being CONTENT with not being THAT blogger who has umpteen million followers and a perfect post every single day. Blogging comes in many different forms, and everyone seems to have their own reason. I feel like mine has morphed more into an online diary, and is totally therapeutic, like you mentioned! I think being ok with where you are, and not stressing about reaching unattainable goals, is so important. I sometimes put so much pressure on myself to up my blogging game, mainly because I spend 8+ hours a day actually vetting bloggers and reading blogs and on and on and on. So when I sit down to write something for my OWN blog, I want it to be for me, for my heart, and not someone else’s.
Megan says
I am currently a teacher and worry about the same thing. If I were to leave education, would it bother me if I wasn’t “making a difference” every day. Some days I crave a job where there’s not so much pressure to make a difference, but I guess you can’t have it both ways, right? I look up to you for following your heart and leaving education if it wasn’t the place for you and hope that I have the courage to do that one day if I find myself in the same place.
I am picky about the blogs I choose to read, but yours is one that I look forward to each and every day. However, when I see that you haven’t posted, I completely understand (and look up to you) for making the choice of your family or yourself rather than forcing yourself to post here if you can’t.
I really enjoy what you have created here. Thank you for sharing your honest feelings and being someone I can look up to.
Koryn says
Like many have said, you’re the ONLY blog I read on a regular basis any more. The blogs I used to love I just can’t relate to these days, and for that reason, I truly believe you are already making a HUGE difference! Like you, I can totally relate to to that post about being somewhere in the middle/is that enough? Currently, one of my top personal/life goals is to just have made a difference in someone’s life – even if its small. I remember key people in my life who I will forever remember words of encouragement that they shared with me, which made a lasting impact in my life to this day. I just want to be that for someone’s life (hopefully more). Not sure how that’s gonna happen (lol), but I digress to say – I can totally relate. And I TOTALLY appreciate your blog ! I would probably cry if you stopped blogging. No pressure. :-)
Karen says
Great post! I have been reading for about 6 years and look forward to every single post you do. You are so honest and I love the everyday posts, the stitch fix posts, the weekend recaps, the pics of the house, the kids and the hubby. Keep doing what you are doing, it’s a great thing!
Stacey M. says
This right here is why I continue reading your blog Courtney. I have been reading for years now, and have never once thought of leaving. Your realness and willingness to share the “not so good” with the good is one of the major reasons you are my favorite blogger. I struggle with the same feelings you do about “being enough” and I have to remind myself all the time that the things “everyone else” seems to be pushing for non-stop is just not what I’ve ever wanted for my life. And I’m OK with that. There are so many things I would have to give up in order to obtain that “corporate” job, or that killer body, or that perfect home and I’m just not willing to do that. A quote that comes to mind here is “the price of anything is what you’re willing to give up to obtain it.” I LOVE that quote and remind myself of it all the time when I start thinking I’m not doing enough, or being enough. Once you decide what’s important in your life, everything else just kinda falls into place. And if you’re happy with your life, then that’s all that really matters. <3
Kat says
Beating a dead horse here, since so many others have said it, but you are my favorite blogger because you’re relatable, and your content never feels contrived, or like it’s grasping at straws, like so many of the other “big” HLBs. I love that your posts never feel like you’re blogging just to blog or you’re desperate to put out content. I much prefer quality over quantity when it comes to blogs, and you are all quality!!
Brittany says
Girl, I totally get where you’re coming from. Your blog is AWESOME. It’s funny– the things you talk about thinking about changing within your blog (having a professional photographer, etc) are some of the reasons you’re so relatable and real, hence why people LOVE your blog!! I’ve been reading for years and years and years because I love your transparency and willingness to share a variety of things about your life– not simply what you think people would “want” to read. You’re a wonderful & beautiful person, inside and out! I wouldn’t call it a season of “mediocrity”, but a season of doing MANY things well, rather than just one.
I gave up blogging a couple years ago because it got the best of me with the comparison trap, but I truly did miss it! Like you mentioned, having the creative outlet is great. So I started blogging again, just for the sake of doing it the way I wanted, whether or not anyone wanted to read it LOL. I LOVE that about your blog, that you are just “you”, no matter what you think readers will think! Don’t change that :)
Jill says
I really, truly love and relate to this post. I think a lot of these feelings come with age (you and I are around the same age). It’s that point in life where we are wise & confident, which leads to a deeper desire for purpose. I am currently reading a book that addresses this beautifully and I highly recommend it: For the Love by Jen Hatmaker. I don’t know your religious beliefs, but she is a Christian writer. But she’s funny and honest and relatable and it’s about showing yourself and others grace in a world where there is so much pressure. Thanks for being so honest and relatable for your readers, Courtney!
Katie @ Live Half Full says
I’ve been feeling EXACTLY the same way lately when it comes to my blog. It’s hard to not compare yourself when you’re a working mom to bloggers in other stages of life and/or full time bloggers. You’re doing a great job!
Whitney says
Just wanted to let you know that I love your blog! I am so glad you haven’t changed and started doing what every other blogger is doing.. honestly, blogs I used to love just feel so fake and commercialized now days. I truly enjoy checking in to see what is going on with your life! I have been a reader for years and will continue as long as you are writing! :)
Erin says
Hi Courtney,
This post is amazing. You hit the nail on the head. Thanks for sharing that other post that inspired it because that was helpful for me to read too. I’m pretty much in the same boat – about to be 35, I have a 3yo and a 1yo, I fit my full-time into part-time hours at my very flexible job in a family business (that I am so INCREDIBLY grateful for), and I run the house because my husband, while helpful, has weird law enforcement hours. Some days I think about what a go-getter I was in college and what I wanted to be back then and how I was going to change the world. I ended up getting an MBA and instead of interviewing at big places, I “settled” I guess at my family’s company. I did this knowing that I would need the flexibility when I started my family. Could I have done bigger and “better” things? Maybe. Would I have been happier and more fulfilled? Who knows, maybe not. I do know that I love being able to work outside the home and have that part of myself and I love love love being able to raise and care for my kids and my husband and house (wellll, maybe I don’t love most aspects of taking care of the house, but it can be satisfying to get things done). I look at my fitness too – most days I just can’t make it happen, not even 15 minutes. I’m trying to be ok with that and know that in this season of life, while my kids are little and my husband’s schedule is not ideal, that’s just the way it is. I’d honestly rather have time for a little self-care like sleep or reading. And it’s ok. It’s ok to be “mediocre.” We handle so so so much (and I don’t have a blog or an Usborne business!) and it’s ok if we don’t want any more than we’re handling now. Wow, I really just loved this post so much. You are so relatable and I wish we could be friends in a mom’s group if we lived closer (I’m on the west coast)…but who am I kidding? I didn’t even have time for the mom’s group I was in when my son was little, haha. This shit is hard, you’re getting really good at this, and you’re doing an amazing job.
Melissa says
That article was like a gut punch. I also struggle with the feeling of never being or doing enough. Thank you for writing this post. I love to read your blog because you are so authentic!
DPN says
I never comment or email, but I wanted to take just a minute to say that you have one of my favorite blogs to read. I’ve been a regular reader for years and have watched several that started out in this vein take other turns, often becoming or pushing more of “a product” or “service.” I think that’s why you’re still my fave! I’ve had many of the same experiences (growing fam, new house, miscarriage, and death of my FIL) right around the same times as you and it has been awesome (and maybe a little therapeutic?) to read your take on the same experiences. So thanks!
Annie says
I think the difference between you and those are blogger friends or your’s you mention (or at least some of them) – is that you do have a full time job, separate from you blog. A lot of people made their blog their job or career. What I really like about your blog is that it’s authentic. You aren’t trying to sell me jack sh*t. No health programs, no e-books…nothing! I also love how much your blog has evolved since becoming a mom of TWO (a lot of other bloggers only have ONE…big difference!) – I’ve seen such a huge paradigm shift in you and I think that’s been incredibly awesome to watch. Being a mom is your priority and that’s just great. Anyway, now I’m blabbing – but all of that to say…you’re doing what you have to in order to support your family, which is where you aren’t mediocre – you are clearly kicking a** there. And when all is said and done, at the end of our lives – your kids, your family – that’s your legacy. Keep on, keepin’ on!!
Lauren says
First off, I don’t read a lot of blogs and am not really big into social media, BUT I have been reading your blog for a long time and it’s the only blog I check often. I think what I love about your blog is that it’s you being real! Maybe you aren’t doing Ebooks or whatever everyone else is doing these days, but that’s what I love about you and your blog. I feel like you’re someone I could sit down over a bowl of ice cream with a have a nice long chat about life and motherhood :)
I quit my teaching job 2 years ago to stay home with our two boys (and our third on the way). I used to have those feelings of am I really making a difference? I doubted myself for a long time but I am finally in a place where I can look at things and say, “you know what? I AM making a difference. I am mothering two little boys who might just grow up and change the world someday.” I know this is a season of life and I’m working hard at being the best mom I can right now. Once they are in school and I go back to work, then I’ll be in a new season of life and will probably get back into teaching, but for now I am really happy with life.
Oh and it probably helps that I got rid of Facebook TEN years ago (I’m 33 too) and have never once looked back!! ;)
Jenna Carelli says
Courtney, I have been reading your posts for a few years myself and have absolutely loved your journey. I am one of those “hustlers” and it truly is just within me to be that way. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being true to yourself and following your own path. What matters is that you are happy. It is no ones business to judge you for being true to yourself. Keep doing you, girl. You are pretty freaking awesome at it!
Fiona says
I think people read blogs that speak to them, and though I don’t comment on every post you do, I Read almost all of them (sometimes I Miss them for some reason) and I just find you come across down to earth and sincere. You never speak as if you are something you’re not and I think that has a greater impact for your readers then you know. I know as a new mom I’m trying to find balance in my life too so I think we all understand when maybe there are days you’re less ‘wordy’ or some days you’re like GAH I gotta just write….Just know we love reading what you’ve got to say even the mundane days you think no one cares about because chances are we are having those days too :)
Bethany says
I shared that post on my Facebook as well. For me it hit on the money part of it. Due to our current overseas location I have to work basically full time or no at all. There are a few part-time job but we would have to still pay for full-time daycare ($560 a month). So we are thinking I am not to stop working. I ever thought I’d be a stay at home mom because I love to work. I have a medical background but I cannot work medical here. The big dreams of a big house and all just do not matter much. I am fine with a small house that we can pay for and more time. Not saying that everyone should stop working just sharing where that post pulled at my heart.
Michaela says
I love your blog (and have read pretty much since the beginning) because you always keep it real and don’t pretend to be someone you’re not.
So many other bloggers try so hard in my opinion, but not necessarily to provide better content for readers.
I like to see photos that I can relate to, and think a lot of others can too – it’s easy to fall into the comparison trap, but not with your blog. It’s more like a place of support.
I especially appreciate your honesty when it comes to parenting, like when you said you were disappointed at first you weren’t expecting a girl with your second. That takes a lot to discuss publicly, but again, it’s so helpful to hear!
So, you’re great the way you are, there’s no need to aim for something you don’t even want! It’s fine to be content or even question where you are at job-wise without having an answer xx
Annie says
I love reading your blog and how real you keep it! Life is busy especially with two kids, working, and blogging!
Natalie says
Loved this post.
Your content is great – I count on your blog as a place to come for some normalcy. Plus, I can relate to you. That is a rarity as far as bloggers go these days!
I second what a reader mentioned in her comment earlier – getting rid of Facebook several years ago was one of the best things I could have done! I have a 2 year old daughter and a baby on the way and all I want for them is to know that it’s okay to just be…normal. The best version of themselves that they want to be. I have a few friends who are in the same point in their lives as us, and I am always hearing about how depressed they are after seeing what so-and-so and their family did over the weekend (posted on Facebook, of course!). My advice is…get rid of Facebook and live your own life. What people post online is rarely accurate (you are the exception, which is why so many of us love you!).
Anyway, keep up the good work. Be proud of who you are and what you’re doing. You’ve got a good thing going! :-)
Kylie says
I’ve read your blog from the beginning and yours is the only blog I still read. Love your honesty and how relatable you are. Keep it up and don’t sell yourself short. I think you are pretty kick-ass! :)
Kristen says
Well, first of all, I think you’re far from mediocre.
I actually love that you don’t blog full time. I can tell a HUGE difference between your blog and the full time, all in bloggers. Honestly, most of their posts seem forced, fake, and repetitive. I don’t read them daily anymore.
As far as your job, my husband and I were just having this conversation not long ago. We’ve ultimately decided that, at this point in our lives, we’re happy with where we’re at. We make enough money to get by and afford some fun along the way and we’re not so crazy busy all the time that we can’t stop and enjoy life every now and then. I think that’s important. I have friends that are killing it with their careers but I also see and hear about how incredibly stressful it can be and how much they’re missing out on with their kids.
One last thing, have you considered volunteering somewhere? I know you’ve got your hands full, but if you could do that once a month or even every other month, I think that would make you feel like you’re making a difference. Just a thought.
You’re doing great at life! Don’t fret too much. As the saying goes, “We’re all a hot mess. Some just hide it better than others!”
Reid says
I am a long time silent reader and just want to say thank you for this post! I too left the field of education for a job I enjoy but don’t make as big of an impact in. I agree with all the other comments in that your blog is one of the ones I look forward to reading the most because you are the most real and relateable. Keep doing what you’re doing!
Robyn says
I am not a mom, but I am around your age, and your blog is one of my favorites because you are never fake and show was real life looks like! Thank you for doing it!
Nikki says
I think its safe to say, real people can relate to your “real” blog. I appreciate you writing about juggling being a working mom and all life has to offer. It is hard to do everything, and I think most of us feel behind in one aspect of life or all from time to time. Thank you for being real and relatable…it is SO refreshing!
Karleen says
This is exactly why I read your blog and skip on others. You have always been the most real and relatable. I recently just gave birth to our first child and your blog posts about having to juggle 2 children are so real! Nobody talks about the truth like you do! I too am someone content living somewhere ‘in between’ and although society tells us that may not be enough, I am ok with that because that’s just the way I am. This post was much needed for me today, so thank you for making a difference in MY day :)
Anna L says
I’ve been reading your blog for 5 years now, and I started off reading a couple others but have since stopped. Your page is authentic and honest, which is something I feel like people of all ages can relate to (Im only 22). A lot of other blogs I used to read now seem staged and only in it to turn a profit. I can no longer relate, and frankly, don’t care to read them. Yours is the only one I’ve stuck with due to the genuine feel that I get from reading this. Although I don’t have children, I relate to this post because I too am ok with being in the “middle” career wise at this point. I work in insurance and never thought I would, but I make enough to pay my bills and be happy. Yet others try to pressure me to advance early, etc, but I don’t feel like I’m changing people’s lives which is something I wish I could be doing. So I completely get the feeling. Just keep doing what you’re doing and being authentic, and us long-time readers will always stick around!
Lauren @ Oh Hey! I Like That! says
Girl, I totally understand. There are times when I feel like I should be doing more with my life and doing something closer to what I went to college for, and there are times when I just think, “Ugh, I don’t feel like blogging.” But then blog posts like this let me know that I’m not alone and I feel energized!
Meghan says
Hey, so I don’t often comment but wanted to let you know that I always look forward to reading your new posts. I work full time and am expecting my second child in 2 weeks, and it’s just so nice to have found a blog to follow that is so relatable! I love hearing about life with two kids and working in a corporate job and managing all.the.things! So thanks for checking in when you can, and I hope you keep this great blog around!
Trisha says
Honestly Courtney, I feel like I could have written this, nearly word for word, myself. I’ve never been very career-driven, but I do like to work. I’ve always wanted to care for my family, more so than provide financially. I am very lucky, like you, to have an understanding boss and two part-time jobs that allow me to feel as though I’m more than *just* a mom and a wife, but really all I care about is what kind of mom, wife, daughter, and friend I am. Climbing the corporate ladder and making millions just doesn’t appeal to me. I like my mediocrity, and it’s nice to know I’m not the only one. :)
Rosamund says
Your timing could not have been more perfect!
I was offered two jobs this week, one is a step up but in a city that I don’t really enjoy being in. The other is the same work I do now but in a smaller city my husband and I have been talking about moving too. I have been going back and forth about career vs. lifestyle and completely related to your post. When I stop to think about it I would much rather live in a place that I am happy, be able to buy a house and start having children (things I don’t really want to do in the city with the better job). Having a life where I am happy is so much more important then having one where I look ‘successful.’ At the end of the day, success is being happy, having a good relationship with my husband and creating a positive environment for our children so they can grow up happy too.
I love how honest your blog it. Sometimes I see other blogs which were started when all you ladies were in your early 20s and, as I am in my late 20s, I feel a lot of pressure. It’s hard not to compare and wonder ‘why aren’t I doing these amazing things!” Thank you for being you. Thank you for reminding us that it is okay being in the middle because that is where we are at our best.
Catherine says
Hi Courtney! Just wanted to leave you a note that I’ve been reading your blog since 2011 and I enjoy reading it every day. Love to you and your family! xo
mallory says
Your blog is truly the only “HLB” blog that I still read regularly and genuinely enjoy. I used to read other blogs that got big around the time your blog started and they are all SO BORING to me now. Evergreen content, boring recipe posts, same old story about weekends doing xyz. YOURS IS DIFFERENT, AND REAL. That is the difference. I don’t care about a professional photo taken of sheet pan salmon. ITS BORING and clearly a way to push out content without doing much work.
Every post of yours is interesting in my opinion and you’re actually one of the only bloggers who makes yummy looking meals and can actually cook!
I could go on but just keep doing you, Courtney! You are always refreshing to read and I personally think you are kicking ass, not just mediocre, at life.
Moira Thompson says
Hey Courtney – I’ve been reading the blog for a few years and had my daughter the same day as your Alex last year!! Thanks for always sharing. It is comforting to know other mothers are going through similar struggles and triumphs. Ps I made cheesy spinach pasta for the kiddo this week and it was a hit :)
Leah says
Just want to say I love your blog and have been reading for years. You are authentic and it’s a breath of fresh air. I don’t need to see super polished photos or content. I am a Mom that likes reading what I can relate to. Keep doing what you are doing!!
Karenann says
I always look forward to reading your blog. It is funny, informative and truly honest! And to see little tidbits of your wonderful family is truly uplifting. Everyone goes through periods of doubt and “am I doing enough” and the answer is “yes”. You should give yourself credit for all you do and be proud of it! Being a mom is the hardest job of all and you add so much more to that! Thank you for your wonderful blog and congratulations on your seven years of blogging!
Tara @ A Daily Dose of Fit says
I think that when a blogger lets go of the comparison trap, that’s when the magic happens with the blog. I skim so many blogs written by people who are “doing it” in terms of creating a business, putting out e-books, etc…and I honestly think their blogs sound forced. And unrealistic. Almost as if they’re trying to be this character that THEY really aren’t. So what’s the actual story? Who knows. I write a blog. I also work all week. So my blog? It’s my creative outlet that I let myself have fun with. No pressure. Keep being real. Be you, no comparisons. That’s what makes your blog so successful, not a forced out e-book. Because you ARE doing it and it shows. You’re living life. Pure and simple. Not living life just so you can blog about it.
Stef says
I love this post. Not sure if you will see this, but if you do, you should know that 5+ years ago, it was your blog that sparked my passion and discovery for health & wellness :) I stumbled upon it my freshmen year of college at the most perfect time in my life when I needed this guidance. Thank you for that! Whenever I am asked what started my passion years ago, your blog pops into my mind. By the way, I believe we are locals (I live in the saratoga area) which is pretty cool!
Jessica says
Courtney:
I am just catching up with my blogs so I’m a bit late to the game here. And although I didn’t read all the prior comments I’m pretty certain they would echo my thoughts- and they are that you are right where you need to be! You are a busy, working mom who is juggling a lot – giving most all of her attention and time to her family and offering herself very little time for self care or introspection. Your flourishing at it all – even though you cant see that now! I’m glad to hear that as you take the time to write about your feelings you seem to come to a place of “acceptance” for this stage of your life. And I think thats perfect – as usual you have your head on straight as I’ve said before. As the boys get older I think you will find the opportunity for you to reconsider your “career” will present itself. And the blog will continue to transition and grow with you. I read a lot of blogs and yes, there are lots of great gals out there doing “all the things” – but that in no way diminishes what you have created here. Your blog continues to be a source of happiness and inspiration for me and many others. I love it and you! And… in other news – I love the new mud room and all the house projects – its looking awesome. I also love Little Big Towm – mainly because I love that blonde with the curly, crazy hair – it gives me hope for mine! But I’m going to download that album now!
April V says
just wanted to pop in & say your one of my favorite blogs to read & sometimes you don’t have to be making a “difference”.. sometimes we just like the “everyday” life & that’s why I love yours so much.. it’s just REAL. ♥
Jessica w says
I totally agree! I am fine with a simple, happy life. We don’t need to keep up with the Jones(which is hard and a constant struggle thanks to social media), I don’t need the best job(I needed flexibility and good coworkers), and I don’t want or need geniuses for kids. I want happy intelligent normal children that will be good people and citizens. This is the mantra I’m trying to live by. I love your blog thank you for the time you do devote to it.
Court says
Once upon a time I was supposed to be the best. And in many many ways I was.
But one day there was more to be the best with, and then more and then more…
And I realized I hated it, I hated me, I hated having to be the best.
So I stopped.
And then I struggled with being “average”, with not giving everything 110%, with keeping 100 balls in the air at just the right speed and coordination.
And I realized I was happier. (I wish I could say this realization was pretty and graceful, but it looked more like an insanely drunk year of college followed by a year away from school just working and finding me, and then a couple more years of school to finish and a whole bunch of mess before it got better.)
I don’t have a career, I have a job I like well enough that pays the bills and then a little bit more (knock on wood). It’s flexible enough to coach a swim team once a week and I basically come and go as I please as long as my work is done. It affords me time to be creative and opportunities to grow personally and professionally.
I don’t have a million friends, but I have more than a handful I can count on every single day and who love me unconditionally (because trust me I’ve tested some of those limits).
I don’t have the perfect body I was THISCLOSE to a few years back, but I also don’t hate myself and feel it necessary to deny myself calories and fats. Or cupcakes and cheeseburgers.
Those were all things I thought I wanted until I realized I’d rather be happy than stress out ALL THE TIME about other things.
High five for finding a spot that works for your happy, Courtney!
Yan says
Dearest Courtney, a silent reader from Australia here! Just wanted to say I totally understand &I empathise with where you are coming from – these feelings are legit! And seemingly a common theme amongst mum’s, especially those who strive to always do their best! It’s a major issue &a contributor to my anorexia, especially now that I am a full time SAHM! I feel constantly guilty that I am not working & financially contributing to my family or socially contributing to society! The only thing that seems to work (for now) is to ask myself, will I really be happier doing more than I am right now? If the answer is no, then I know it’s not the right choice or right time (I still need my husband’s constant reinforcements though!! 😛)
As for your blog, oh it’s AMAZING as is!!! I can’t get enough of it and am actually going all the way back to your archived posts and reading each one like a book!!! I find your writing style and life in general so fun & relaxing to read! I would definitely say no to all the “obligatory blog stuff” like professional photography and Ebooks, except if you personally choose to do it 😊 Hope this teeny message helps provide that bit of encouragement!! Much ❤️🌻🌻
Steph says
This is my first comment on your blog – this post is SPOT ON! We are at similar life stages (I’m 31, married, no kids though just yet) and in my career I’ve been wondering if I’m doing something wrong because I’m not “hustling” or trying to become a “girl boss.” Don’t get me wrong, I admire those women and many days wish I were one, but it’s just not me. You have so eloquently put into words what I’ve been feeling!
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